self-esteem

Self-esteem is how you think and feel about your-self. It is the way how you regard yourself.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and wished you were someone else? Probably everyone who has ever lived wished that they could change at least one thing about themselves: their nose, their height, their personality, their way of living and others. But whatever and whoever we are, we must accept everything we already know about ourselves and also everything we learn about our self by looking into the mirror of other people’s behavior.

Look, money, possessions, popularity. They all

....depression....

When we say depression, we’re not using the word in the clinical sense. We’re talking about the depression people refer to when they sigh and say, “I’m depressed”. It’s also known as feeling blue, gloomy, glum, disheartened, melancholy, forlorn and in the pits. It’s the “downs” of the usual cycle of ups and downs.

Depression is often caused by a sense of not having accomplished enough. We question the usefulness of what we’ve achieved in the past, and doubt our ability to achieve anything useful in the future. Self-doubt robs us of our energy that lead us to feel depressed.

We look at all we want to do. It seems overwhelming. We tell ourselves, “I can’t do all this,” and instantly fulfill our own prophecy by not even trying. The energy drops even more, and the depression deepens. We were the one sometimes who underestimated ourselves instead of thinking positive and encourage ourselves to just try it.

“If you feel depressed, just relaxed yourself”. Think of the things that could make you enjoy and forget the problems or the things that make you depressed.

.....MISTAKES.....

   One of the least disguised is mistakes.It obviously,show us what needs to be improved.It make us realize the wrong decision and bad deeds that we made.Without mistakes,how would we know what we had to work on?Mistakes give us a lesson to avoid doing they same things again and a reason to make our next step better.This seems an invaluable aide to learning,and yet many people avoid situations in which mistakes might take place.

    If you're learning,growing and trying new things you need to expect mistakes.They're a natural part of the learning process.In fact,someone once said,"if you're not making at least 50 mistakes a day,you're not trying hard enough".You should not be afraid of trying to do new things because in this world "nobody is perfect"each of us could do mistakes.And avoiding situations in which you might make mistakes may be the biggest mistake at all.

   Even scientists,before they could able to make their invention success,they need first to have several test and make different experiment as well.Like the story of THOMAS EDISON,who made 1000 unsuccessful attempts before arriving at the light bulb."How did it feel to fail 1000 times?"a reporter asked."I didn't fail 1000 times"Edison replied."The light bulb was an invention of 1001 steps".

   You should aim for success,not perfection.Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism.Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can,paradoxically,make you a far happier and more productive person.

Acceptance

     Acceptance is such an important commodity; some have called it “the first law of personal growth”. It is simply seeing something the way it is and saying “that’s the way it is”.

Acceptance is not approval,consent,permission, authorization, sanction,concurrence,agreement,compliance,sympathy,endorsement,confirmation,support,ratification,assistance, advocating,maintaining,encouraging,promoting,abetting or even liking what it is.

     Acceptance is not a state of passivity or inaction.We are not saying you can’t change the world, right with wrong or replace evil with good.Acceptance is, in fact, the first step to successful action.

     If you don’t fully accept a situation precisely the way it is, you will have difficulty changing it. Moreover, if you don’t fully accept the situation, you will never really know if the situation should be changed.

     When you accept, you relax; you let go; you become patient. That’s the true value of acceptance: you feel better about life, and about yourself. Everything we’ve said about acceptance applies to things you have done or failed to do as well.

     When you’re in a state of non-acceptance, it’s difficult to learn. A clenched fist cannot receive a gift, and a clenched psyche-grasped tightly against the reality of what must not be accepted-cannot easily received a lesson.

     Relax. Accept what do already taken place whether done by you or something outside of you. Then look for the lesson. You might not enjoy everything that happens in life, but you can enjoy the fact that no matter what happens, “there’s a lesson in here someplace”.

*FORSAKEN*

             Would you tell me who I am?

             Or can your lips tell lies

             Do you utter words about me?

             You can't, because you can't see.

             Why have you been blind for so long

             And never heard the sweet, soft song

             You turned your back and walk away

             You sailed far into a deep, quiet bay.

             Why did I think you'd come back

             And make up for the things in which you lacked

             But there's a lot of things I know will see me through

             I don't have to talk who I am to you.

Saying good-bye's on what we have Lost

  This is a lifetime of good-byes.As we continue with life,we will say good-bye to cherished people,things and ideas.Learn to say goodbye.Allow yourself to mourn each loss.As with a physical wound,the body has its own schedule for healing.It will tell you when it has healed.

  If we loss something we tend to be on denial stage wherein our mind denies the loss.Often,the first words we utter when hearing of a loss is "Oh,no," or "this can't be".Others denies the hurt of loss through overwork,taking drugs (including alcohol and cigarettes),and other addictive activities or sheer force of will just for them to forget the hurt that they feel because of losing something.

  Others tend to be angry or depressed at whatever or whomever caused the loss(including the person who left)They often turn the anger within and feel guilt over something they did or did not do and sometimes they tend also to blame their self.

  Understanding and acceptance is the best way for us to survive when we loss something.We must realize that life does go on,that loss is just a part of life,and that our life can and will be complete without the presence of that which was lost.We have to learn to say GOOD-BYE,LET GO, and embrace the new moment.